Monday 11 March 2013

Guys, don't do that


So Anita Sarkeesian at Feminist Frequency has released a wonderful video on sexist tropes in videogames.


I recommend you watch her videos (there will be 4 more tropes vs. women vids) as she is genuinely awesome.

It opened my eyes to the tedious "Rescue the Damsel" plotline that is so reliably trotted out. How depressing that all is - more misogyist rubbish from the great garbage tip of Patriarchy. It's worth looking at the central plots of games before we buy them and boycotting those who perpetuate this sexist "damsel" trope. It's sad because video games have the potential to be a massive positive force for women. For me, some of the best games are those where women are (at least potentially) the protagonists, for example, role-playing games such as Skyrim, and the Mass Effect and Tomb Raider series. Sarkeesian has, predictably and unfairly, received criticism from the rational supporters of Mens Rights Activists (MRAs).

In one such YouTube video, http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NfkS9YS_T0k&feature=youtu.be although the author has no problem with the content of the damsel tropes video, he criticizes the fact that comments were blocked from it . Well hey, big surprise there! It may arguably be the ideal thing to do, but allowing comments would just lead to an instant slew of profane misogyny we are better off without. Can we blame Sarkeesian for not wanting this? I don't think so. Seeing some of the sick, disgusting and hateful bile which is flung daily at women on the internet, whether they be bloggers or activists, I am constantly shocked.

It adds no value to anything to let such rubbish be aired on the comments. So the author of the video criticisng Sarkeesian for this admits there is little to argue with in her video, but insists that criticism be allowed, even when he knows it will be mostly uninformed and unhelpful. But genuine comments to the video could be posted anywhere else - no one is stopping that. It just seems like that old chestnut of "free speech". Yes, you're free to say what you want and we're free to ignore it. Except, it must be hard to ignore rampant, personal abuse. We've heard of it all before and I have no further need for it. Spare a thought for the poor recipients!

To me, this shows why Mens Rights Activists just don't "get it". To compare the abuse they receive from feminists (which is essentially name-calling) to the vile rape and murder threats they dish out in return is pretty unbalanced. They are not in the same order of magnitude. Statistically, there is more of a risk that these latter threats may actually come to pass, and understandably that causes genuine distress and fear. Also, as a further point, there is an appalling article on, you guessed it, the Reddit site, Men's Rights section. That shining paragon of fairness and tolerance. I shudder to post the link. Don't read it if easily offended.


The article has the blind arrogance to try and redefine feminism so that "people of all genders should have an equal say about what 'treated equally' means," and then attacks feminism because it doesn't do that.

Two points. Firstly, massive straw man. MRAs don't understand feminism, and won't unless they change the mindset. Secondly, well, that would be convenient for men, having an equal say, wouldn't it? How can people can be so emotionally stunted as to be incapable of a moment's empathy? I would suggest that the point may be, that *men can't be trusted* to have an equal say in what feminism means, or what it should try and achieve. The past few thousand years of subjugation should be proof enough of that. Letting men define equality would be like letting a criminal determine his own sentence.

Look, I'm no expert in feminism. I have never claimed to be. I've not read any books on it. I've only started a few months ago. But I guess my point is you don't need to be, to see how wrong MRAs are, on nearly everything. And this trend of atheists jumping on the MRA bandwagon really disgusts me. As an atheist myself I rely on humanism to help guide my moral principles. The argument that laws are the main guiding light of the godless and are sufficient to prevent violence against women, is often used. I'm not convinced laws are enough on their own. They are certainly starting from an imperfect position. I won't abandon the principles of humanism (which includes feminism to some extent at least) just because some emotionless automaton claiming to be the ultimate logical, scientific and rational exemplar says we should.

I see the equality problem on a sliding scale. Equality in the middle, total mens rights on one side, women's on the other. The current position of the slider is undoubtedly some way over to the men's side. To me, we have an iterative process. The first attempt at correction of the slider's position will possibly take it too far over the other direction. This is to be expected. We can only make subsequent adjustments once we're actually reached the iterated position, or are at least close to it. This notion is nicely summed up in one of my favourite responses to concerns that "equality" is going too far: "Let's get there first".

And what have us men got to be so concerned about? Well I'm a man and I don't need MRAs. If we're supposed to be so tough, just suck it up. And if men are so wonderful as MRAs claim then surely we'll rapidly be able to claw back any lost ground if, shock horror, we feel things have gone too far. I have my own feelings about certain types of radical feminism. Should certain demonstrably untrustworthy men in positions of power be supplanted with suitable women? I think so. The same goes for the problem of minority representation in politics, business leadership etc. But I feel uncomfortable at the thought of men only being seen as part of the problem, and not being able to be part of the solution. That is difficult to live with. But the behaviour of some MRAs only serves to make such radicalism more extreme.

So here's my message to men everywhere: If you see or hear about sexism anywhere in going about your daily life, do something about it. Call it out, Challenge it, Report it. If you know men who actively abuse women, physically, emotionally, verbally, or on the net: tell them to “JUST STOP IT”. They should quit. Cease and desist, to use legal parlance. They are damaging the world and giving men everywhere a bad name.

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